1. Truscum are mindless bootlickers who just want cis approval and nothing they say can be trusted.
2. The trans experience isn't suffering. Being nb is about your internal sense of self; you don't have to transition or feel dysphoria. I have an agender mutual who doesn't care on any level about gender, pronouns, etc, but i wouldn't call her cis because of it, or even a girl. She's made absolutely no changes and i don't think she's socially transitioning, but she's still nb.
That's the thing. Our whole position of "you can't tell someone's nb just by looking" is FOR people like that. You don't have to change anything about yourself. You don't have to even socially transition. The nb experience MUST encompass all possible gender presentations, and just because you dress femme while having a dfab body doesn't exclude you. It's important that the definition of nb includes you, because otherwise we're just creating a new gender role.
3. If it hurts to call yourself a woman or girl, you're probably not one.
4. If you *feel* vulnerable and hurt when you're in danger of losing your gender, you're not cis and it's not worth trying to be cis.
5. Gender euphoria is also a trans experience, and I know you feel that, I've seen it, it's beautiful.
6. Your gender doesn't have to be visible - again see "you can't tell when someone's nb". You can keep it as a secret for yourself or only use it in particular contexts if that's what you want.
7. Your discomfort with your body is specifically gendered, and "I want to be taller and broader-shouldered" isn't typical cis woman's body image stuff. You're perfectly free to call it dysphoria, therefore, given that it stems from the same mismatch as, say, top dysphoria does, just in a different arena. You don't have to. But you're allowed.
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winterfish
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Date: 2019-04-25 10:35 am (UTC)1. Truscum are mindless bootlickers who just want cis approval and nothing they say can be trusted.
2. The trans experience isn't suffering. Being nb is about your internal sense of self; you don't have to transition or feel dysphoria. I have an agender mutual who doesn't care on any level about gender, pronouns, etc, but i wouldn't call her cis because of it, or even a girl. She's made absolutely no changes and i don't think she's socially transitioning, but she's still nb.
That's the thing. Our whole position of "you can't tell someone's nb just by looking" is FOR people like that. You don't have to change anything about yourself. You don't have to even socially transition. The nb experience MUST encompass all possible gender presentations, and just because you dress femme while having a dfab body doesn't exclude you. It's important that the definition of nb includes you, because otherwise we're just creating a new gender role.
3. If it hurts to call yourself a woman or girl, you're probably not one.
4. If you *feel* vulnerable and hurt when you're in danger of losing your gender, you're not cis and it's not worth trying to be cis.
5. Gender euphoria is also a trans experience, and I know you feel that, I've seen it, it's beautiful.
6. Your gender doesn't have to be visible - again see "you can't tell when someone's nb". You can keep it as a secret for yourself or only use it in particular contexts if that's what you want.
7. Your discomfort with your body is specifically gendered, and "I want to be taller and broader-shouldered" isn't typical cis woman's body image stuff. You're perfectly free to call it dysphoria, therefore, given that it stems from the same mismatch as, say, top dysphoria does, just in a different arena. You don't have to. But you're allowed.